I went to bed last night thinking
about some important work to be done in office today, but the wake-up call came
with the warm body of my little daughter sleeping next to me. As I realize that
she is unwell and will need me by her side for the day, several thoughts start
crossing my mind on how I could be with the little one and at the same time get
the work waiting for me done.
With several phone calls and
hours spent on the laptop, I do manage to get the work done while attending to
my daughter and making a visit to the doctor in parallel. While I somehow
managed to juggle both responsibilities, it wasn’t without going through the
guilt of not being able to give my 100% to my work and also of not being able
to give 100% of the time to the little one.
Though this sounds like a one-off
instance, a working mom goes through such juggling day in and day out.
Sometimes there is a work meeting which clashes with an open house in school,
or there is a day when your little one wants you to stay back, just because she
wants to.
And these situations are not necessarily
forced but often out of choice; for instance, we ourselves want to be present
on every important occasion in school, or be involved in their home-work and
other activities, or be with them when they are unwell though there may be a
family member available to attend to the same.
There are some women who decide
one way or the other in the very beginning and either give up work for family
responsibilties or refrain from motherhood in order to focus on their careers but
there are a vast majority of us who are playing the balancing act every day. And
while we do make a decision to choose one over the other depending on the
situation, it is often laden with guilt for what was sacrificed.
But when I sit back and think
today, I realize that instead of feeling guilty about what was not done as
expected, shouldn’t we be happy with ourselves for being able to manage both
ends successfully? For WE made this choice of balancing between both worlds
whether it was for a financial need or otherwise; And WE try our best to be
available to our kids when they need and on every important occasion in their
life; WE make our best effort to ensure that time spent with kids is quality
time; WE often give up opportunities at work and take a back seat in our
careers so we can balance our family lives with it; And yes, WE do contribute
our bit to the family finances as well.
Also what we don’t realize is
that in this process we also maintain our individuality and in turn also set an
example for our kids. So we are teaching our daughters to grow to be
independent, and teaching our sons to respect individuality of women as they
grow.
Hey, we’re doing a good job after
all! So let’s enjoy this journey and continue to deal with each day as it
comes!!